❤ Happy Valentine's Day all! ❤
Here you go, living proof that you don't need gifts, and chocolate, and flowers on Valentine's Day. Even when I was in a relationship, I hated Valentine's day. Why do we praise each other for doing something special on a holiday? Praise and bragging are more deserved on the most random of occasions, not on a holiday where society says you have to show someone how much you love them. It's the little things in life that say "I love you" the most.... It's sending her a picture of a duck, because a flock of ducks attacked you on your first date and since then ducks have been your thing, or recreating the restaurant you ate at right after getting engaged in your living room months later. Those are the moments, those are the "things" that truly say "I love you". Don't get me wrong, every girl loves getting flowers, but do it when she least expects it. I swear I'm not a pessimist when it comes to love, or to Valentine's day; I'm just saying, do everything you can to make everyday a holiday worth celebrating. Don't fall into the routine of doing because it's expected, or because that's what one should do.
Now switching gears... Sometimes the journey leads us back. Back to somewhere we never thought we would be again. For me, this was coming back to my childhood home, my childhood bedroom, and the small town life I'd left right after college. I have a small family; I'm talking I can count immediate family on one hand small. We have always been close and there for one another but, with the loss of my grandfather followed not long after by my moving home, we have grown even closer. We are going out of the way to help one another, we are talking with each other more, we have fallen into a routine again and have honestly grown to appreciate each other more. I've also been reconnecting with old friends. It has been one of the best things since coming home. I've connected with both high school friends and college friends, and I am amazed that no matter how far apart life takes people that we can nearly pick up where we left off. The only difference now is we can legally drink! Do yourself a favor, and reach out to someone you used to be close with. You never know how one text or message might change someone's whole day.
Well by this point, you're wondering why has this woman titled this blog "Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire!" and babbled on about nothing of the sort... well here you go. There are a lot of people on online dating sites. Some people have all of the right motives and intentions, while others not so much. MTV even has a show dedicated to the people who make these bogus online profiles, called "Catfish". You'll find that people lie about all different things online, height, age, pictures, whether or not the participate in risky behaviors (smoking, drugs, etc.), or whether or not they have children. I got thinking about it. It's not like I signed up for online dating in hopes of meeting prince charming (if it does happen that way so be it), but I also never expected that people would lie like they do or that people would be so crude and inappropriate (I know, I'm a little naive, but hey I try to give everyone the benefit... innocent until proven guilty). I started thinking about it. How is there not something out there, something that helps those of us with the best intentions weed out the ding-dongs? That's when it hit me. Back in school there used to be a website called "Rate My Teacher". On the site you could basically give your teacher a 1-5 rating and state a short comment with your reasoning. Why couldn't we link dating sites to something like that? A "Rate the Date" site, so to say. You can put comments in, and then everyone knows what they are in for, from an objective party rather than just the profile that the user (Catfish) created. You would basically know that this on is a liar liar when it comes to their height, and that in reality they are closer to 5'7" instead of the 5'11" that they claim. I think I might be on to something....
Tuesday, February 14, 2017
Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire!
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Monday, February 6, 2017
The New Norm
Life is a crazy and wild ride!
I have been trying to get myself into a new routine. The nights that I am back in New Jersey I have been spending time with my Dad and brother. Being closer to work, I am able to get to the office earlier and leave slightly earlier. I could have opted to sleep longer and get out at the same time, but after having the same routine for 5 years my body has gotten accustom to the 5:30am wake up. It's weird but my family has fallen back into the groove we had years ago before I moved out.
I have been packing things up in prep for the official move out of the house. I find it funny/ ironic that Amazon ships boxes in boxes! I have to admit that I have purchased a bunch of plastic totes in prep for the move. I like the totes a lot and I can reuse and re-purpose them once I move. I highly recommend the 44 quart waterproof Ziploc totes that are sold on Amazon. They are the perfect size and are easy open/ close as well as easily stacked. They have been a lifesaver in packing up the medicine cabinets and photo albums/ keepsakes.
As you know, I have been dabbling in online dating. I know some people that have had success, and figured why not. I was excited to learn that one of my close co-workers who shares a story similar to my own, recently had success online. I am so very happy for him, and look to him as a symbol of hope for myself. He is proof that I can and will dig myself out of this, and that I can be happy and love again. When it comes to myself, I had my first date. I met him at the Dunkin Donuts (cause I'll admit, I have an addiction to coffee) and we talked for 3 hours. Although our phone conversations had gone well, we didn't have the connection in person. Not to mention that he lied about his height and ended up being 4+ inches shorter than me (I know I'm tall, but I've gotta have a guy that's taller than me). It's a step in the right direction; a step toward recovery and healing. I am sure that my dad's girlfriend is right in saying that I will have "a lot of first and last dates".
I have to give my friends credit. They have dealt with me over these past 3 months as I have gone from distraught, to depressed, to angry, and back again. I am truly blessed to have them in my life. Texts from my work mom saying "No man buns!! Please no man buns.", and my other friends saying "so when can we go drinking and hang out?" I am beyond blessed! *Shoutout to my girl Dorothy! Happy Birthday!! Thanks for being you!*
My family recently went to a concert at Santander Arena in Reading, PA. I had bought my brother a concert ticket as his Christmas gift this year, and the whole family decided to get in on it. Seven of us made the trip, and we had an amazing time! We went to see Brantley Gilbert (Country artist) and couldn't have had a better time or experience. If you have never heard of Brantley, I highly suggest that you look him up because he is hands down my favorite country artist. Maybe I will post a video below, because he is just that good!
I have been trying to get myself into a new routine. The nights that I am back in New Jersey I have been spending time with my Dad and brother. Being closer to work, I am able to get to the office earlier and leave slightly earlier. I could have opted to sleep longer and get out at the same time, but after having the same routine for 5 years my body has gotten accustom to the 5:30am wake up. It's weird but my family has fallen back into the groove we had years ago before I moved out.
I have been packing things up in prep for the official move out of the house. I find it funny/ ironic that Amazon ships boxes in boxes! I have to admit that I have purchased a bunch of plastic totes in prep for the move. I like the totes a lot and I can reuse and re-purpose them once I move. I highly recommend the 44 quart waterproof Ziploc totes that are sold on Amazon. They are the perfect size and are easy open/ close as well as easily stacked. They have been a lifesaver in packing up the medicine cabinets and photo albums/ keepsakes.
As you know, I have been dabbling in online dating. I know some people that have had success, and figured why not. I was excited to learn that one of my close co-workers who shares a story similar to my own, recently had success online. I am so very happy for him, and look to him as a symbol of hope for myself. He is proof that I can and will dig myself out of this, and that I can be happy and love again. When it comes to myself, I had my first date. I met him at the Dunkin Donuts (cause I'll admit, I have an addiction to coffee) and we talked for 3 hours. Although our phone conversations had gone well, we didn't have the connection in person. Not to mention that he lied about his height and ended up being 4+ inches shorter than me (I know I'm tall, but I've gotta have a guy that's taller than me). It's a step in the right direction; a step toward recovery and healing. I am sure that my dad's girlfriend is right in saying that I will have "a lot of first and last dates".
I have to give my friends credit. They have dealt with me over these past 3 months as I have gone from distraught, to depressed, to angry, and back again. I am truly blessed to have them in my life. Texts from my work mom saying "No man buns!! Please no man buns.", and my other friends saying "so when can we go drinking and hang out?" I am beyond blessed! *Shoutout to my girl Dorothy! Happy Birthday!! Thanks for being you!*
My family recently went to a concert at Santander Arena in Reading, PA. I had bought my brother a concert ticket as his Christmas gift this year, and the whole family decided to get in on it. Seven of us made the trip, and we had an amazing time! We went to see Brantley Gilbert (Country artist) and couldn't have had a better time or experience. If you have never heard of Brantley, I highly suggest that you look him up because he is hands down my favorite country artist. Maybe I will post a video below, because he is just that good!
I have to share more sad news (I hate feeling like I'm always writing about sad depressing subjects). My best friend recently found out that her 10 month old daughter has a rare for of cancer in her both of her eyes, known as retinoblastoma. Right now her prognosis is good and the doctor's are hopeful, but it is a sad and scary thing. You don't realize just how many people are affected by cancer. It's astounding. I am adding several links to this post related to little Emma and her battle.
As always, thanks for reading. I hope in someway I can help someone else through these posts.
Links For Emma's Eyes:
For your viewing pleasure, Mr. Brantley Gilbert:
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